Thursday, January 14, 2010

When Will Enough Be Enough?

When will we stop feeling sorry for ourselves, and begin taking control?

We all have control ~ control over how we think, feel, and what we choose to believe. If we improve those three aspects of our lives, the empowerment that immediately takes place will be overwhelming.  So often, we're victims of others' thoughts, emotions, and opinions... making us live in their world of unhappiness, disguised as our own.

When will enough be enough?

When will we stop making excuses and begin creating a course of action? This path of productivity is success all by itself, standing on it's own two feet, waiting for us to trust. To move forward, we must trust in ourselves, our passions, our hopes, and our strength. Yep... we're strong! Even (especially) during the weakest of moments, we possess the power to overcome those demons that laugh in our face. In order to make that strength come to life, we must first punch back ~ take control back, and realize we do own our futures. We're not destined to live a life of "less-than."

When will enough be enough?

When will we stop asking them to create our happiness, and begin painting our own pictures? They are not responsible for our exhilaration through this adventure! They are not responsible!! They will never be able to dictate our thoughts, emotions, and decisions... unless we give them the power. I understand this isn't new advice, but I do believe the action needed to accomplish such high-end results isn't being taken often enough. We don't listen (or even ask, for that matter) to ourselves enough, which allows them to weight-in, delivering messages better suited for their wants and needs. We fall into this trap time after time.

When will we read messages like this and begin putting them into immediate action? When will we start believing in our own message that's been ringing in our minds for God knows how long? If that call hasn't yet begun ringing, when will we fix the ringer? When do we unlock the ball-and-chain that's kept us trapped for so long?

When will we find the courage to say "Enough!"


Enz said...

The biggest lesson I ever learned as a grown up is that the only thing I can control in my life is my actions and reactions to situations.

Some days I forget that and those are always the days that seem to spiral out of control.

Thanks for this reminder.

Bendigo said...

I have to say I believe we all reach that point at different times for sure. I wish it was sooner, but we sometimes don't see it for what it is. This is a good message for me to remember. I decide what is good for me, I decide what my next step is. I am in control.

Good post and a great reminder
Thanks for keeping my head in the game coach :)

Sarah said...

many blame others for their misery, but only those who accept responsibility find growth. thanks for the reminder.

Calli said...

Dayne~ First off, I missed reading you!

Secondly~ This is one hell of a poignant post, for me, especially this: "We don't listen (or even ask, for that matter) to ourselves enough, which allows them to weight-in, delivering messages better suited for their wants and needs. We fall into this trap time after time."

so true, so true...when will we?...because I think 'something' has to occur that keeps us from sliding back into it...But what is that thing that makes us do so?


Mr.Poo said...

I just took control, and got a tattoo on my butt "Look busy, Jesus is coming"

Phil-theincredibleshrinkingman said...

Hiya, have an award for you on my blog


Dayne Gingrich said...

Thank you, Phil!

Thinking more about Calli's comment made me remember the specific day I made the decision to not "listen to them anymore."

I made a CONSCIOUS DECISION to take back control... so I shaved my hair to a stubble. 28 years of self consciousness got smacked in the face with one simple conscious decision... no more! I take control this second.

Superfluous Brunette said...

I found your post through Cali's blog where you gave her some great advice. I love the message here and speaks to the struggles I have been having for the past year or soooo.....I allow another persons (dysfunctional) behaviour to dictate how I feel about me. My story, old beliefs I need to let go of. Thanks for the post and I look forward to reading more.

Betty said...

The best way for saving our emotional energy. Thanks for your post-reminder!
Believe in ourselves, is the Key.
So meaningful post!