Sunday, January 23, 2011

Marinate On This...

I talk about it all the time, but it has to be repeated once again: What we think ultimately creates who we become!

I've been battling this concept in my personal life as of late. There have been certain obstacles popping up, testing my belief in this process, and making sure I live by what I preach. Every day, I find myself having to consciously remind my thoughts to be about what I want, rather than what I'm afraid of. Every moment, it seems, I catch myself talking to the mirror about how this process works, and why I teach it so passionately.

Without constant practice, it becomes too easy to fall into the negative, fearful trap of what we don't want. Without conscious reminding, our minds fill itself with ways to sabotage our daily paths. If we allow it to rule our thinking, it will absolutely take us to places where negativity reigns.

I know this personally. I live this daily.

No one is immune to the pitfalls of fearful thinking. The key, though, is recognizing the doubt, and sending it on it's way. Constantly replacing the negative with the possible is critical to our growth and achievement of any goal. The difficulty lies in recognizing when the fear is taking over, and consciously focusing on the possible; the "I will" attitude.

Many years back, my mentor taught me the importance of "going to sleep the right way." He explained how the unconscious mind takes over during our sleep, and what we choose to tell it before we fall asleep will eventually dictate who we become during waking hours. It's natural, as we're drifting off, to focus on the bad that's happened to us during the day, or the worries of tomorrow. Unfortunately, by concentrating on all the negative and fear, we cement this thinking into our unconscious, allowing it to marinate overnight. Do this often enough, night after night, and it will eventually manifest.

Now, as I'm falling asleep, I focus my mind on exactly where I want to be and who I want to become. I make myself feel the passion and confidence of the future, allowing THAT to marinate into my unconscious while I sleep. I repeat the same phrase to myself over and over, as I visualize my future:

"What I think, say, and do creates my future."

This is how I fall asleep every night, as I rid myself of the daily negatives and worries. Fear can't exist under the same roof with the definite, absolute truth of my future. As I regularly train myself to focus on the possible, I remind you to do the same. Look at your reflection daily, and ask what it will take to get there... then get there!


A New Dawn For Me said...

I can really relate to this
I don't think I really experience many fearful thoughts although I appreciate this must be hard if you do! ...but I really am guilty of negative ones. I can beat myself up far better than anyone i know. If things go right ...if I do well what ..its forgotten but when I make a mistake or go wrong I have those conversations with myself that can be so negative. Its like having one of those poisonous friends who puts you down all the time..only its me. How very silly. We should be the one who can tell ourselves..well done you, good for you. Worth trying

Dayne Gingrich said...

It happens all the time with most of us... this negative bashing of ourselves.

Recognize when you're doing it... then simply tell yourself the total opposite. It'll feel weird at first (bc you never do it), but after awhile, it'll become habit.

We become what we tell ourselves... seriously that simple!

Thanks for the comment.

Rettakat said...

I'm still thinking on this... the part about marinading in thoughts all night really stuck with me.

I was wondering... do you tell yourself the same thing each night? Or does it vary, depending on what's going on in your life at the time.

Thanks for sharing this honest and helpful info.

Calli said...

Awesome write, Dayne and such truth. I have been thinking the same of late, how easy it is to be lax and slip back into negative thinking. It is an easy thing to do and it takes constant vigilance to keep positive thoughts growing and flowing!

I have a similar practice each night as I fall asleep :)

Great to see you again and feel that fab positive energy of yours!

Dayne Gingrich said...

Loretta... I say the same thing every night, but I'll visualize different high-end goals for myself. I'll see myself doing huge things that I want, all while saying, "What I say, think, and do creates my future."

Calli... Thanks for stopping by again. I love your energy also. There's something so special about you; so angelic!!

spldbch said...

I like the idea about focusing on what you want to be as you fall asleep. I'm going to have to try it.