Saturday, September 12, 2009

They're Unhappy... Trying To Make Us Unhappy

"I can't stand him... he always talks crap about me!"

"She never lets it go. Why won't she just shut up?"

"I'm gonna get her back for all trash she's talked about me."

"He's such a sad human being... why does he even care what I do?"

We can't care what anyone says about us!! Ignore them... look another direction. The more they talk negatively about us, the more we should feel sorry for them -- sorry that they can't focus on the good, or trying to find the good in their own lives. The reason they gossip or lie about others is because they're unhappy, period! Know that's why they say and act the way they do, but don't be upset, be grateful... grateful you're not them!

We shouldn't waste a second of thought on these people, but instead, surround ourselves with those who lift us up and who exude positivity.  An important lesson I learned a long time ago was understanding that "they" don't care if we don't like them ~ they're not going to change for us... I was wasting energy focusing on their negative energy. It's easy for us to concentrate on how hurtful they've been, making us want to either set things straight, or even hurt them in return. We can't fall into that trap! 

They want us to be negative and miserable, focusing on them instead of our own positive way of living. In their minds... if they can't be happy, then we surely don't deserve to be happy. 

Again, don't waste another minute on them. They'll be, do and say whatever they want. If you believe in God, pray for them. If you don't believe in God, be happy you're not them! 


john said...

Thats a cool photo. I like blue, It always makes me think about the sky:)

Adam said...

I like to call those people Psychic Vampires.

plainolebob said...

yep, the ole axiom, always one in the buch anyways.

Phil-theincredibleshrinkingman said...

I have a favourite internet shop called wicked jester who do t-shirts which some pretty thought provoking quotes on the back. one that seems perfect for this post is

"Those who lack the strength to be themselves are always trying to tear down those who do"

sherry ♥ lee said...

I get this...and it took me year (and cancer) to be able to get it. I spent far too much of my life worrying what others thought of me, or might be saying about if what "they" thought made me "who" I was. It goes deeper than that though to being raised "a pleaser" and a need to be liked because I had no idea who I was anyway.

I learned to ignore the people who would say negative things about me or to me. I learned that it was their own sense of "lack" that made that happen. And I learned to feel sorry for them that they had so little else going on in their lives and a sense of "who" they were.

It's a choice we excellent post.

Midnight Whisperer said...

Great Post... Misery Loves Company.